My friend posted this story on her blog. I wanted to share it.
- As I wait at
Target, a young couple pushes a stroller in the line behind me. The
stroller, brand new, appears to be on its maiden voyage. I peer at the
tiny sleeping newborn, his fingers curled up near his ruddy face.
“You guys do
good work!” I comment. The parents beam with pride, but the weariness in
their eyes lets me know that they are all still in the process of
getting to know each other. The lady behind the couple glances at the
stroller as well, and asks. “Is this your first?” They nod proudly.
”Just wait…” she snorts, and then follows with a comment about unruly
wince. We seem to live in a country overrun by a great lot of negative
naysayers when it comes to parenting. I remember hearing comments like
that when I was a new (and overwhelmed!) mom. It seemed that many
parents were suffering from a chronic case of disappointment and
dissatisfaction called ”Just-Wait-itis,” characterized by the
inflammation of impending doom in parenthood…. I felt trapped in a swirl
of know-it-alls who were warning me that the worst was yet to come.
Of course, now
that my kids are teenagers, I know the truth. Parenting is complicated;
it’s wonderful and challenging; exhausting and gut wrenching;
heartwarming and heart breaking.
And, at the
outset, parenting can be utterly daunting. It just doesn’t help
when others douse young parents with stories leading to doubt and
seasoned moms could infuse joy into our “just waits…”. As I regard this
weary pair, I think of so many things I could say…
wait until your preschool son sees you in the hallway at pick up
time and covertly grins and waves to you. (It’s the best flirting in the
wait until you watch your kindergartener jump off the bus after that
first day, triumphant and tired, melting into your arms.
wait until your son is up to bat, and strikes out, holding it together
despite disappointment. And just wait until the crack of the bat meeting
the ball surprises him and he races to first base…safe.
Just wait until your daughter stands up for a classmate who is struggling, and her peers, humbled, apologize.
wait until your child, painfully tethered to tubes and machines in the
hospital, whispers, “I just want my mommy.” (And you are suddenly aware
that your presence is more powerful than any prescription.)
wait until your son gets his very first summer job and he is,
unmistakably, walking taller and more confidently as a result.
Just wait until your child’s quick sense of humor makes you double over with laughter.
Just wait until you hear your son invite a friend to church.
Just wait until your daughter receives her first college acceptance and you find yourself overcome with tears…not because she’s leaving, but because she’s ready.
The baby in the stroller whimpers, breaking my reverie.
I smile at the couple and look them straight in the eye.
“You have so much joy ahead of you…” I remark.
truly believe that parenting just gets better and better. Nothing
bothers me more or makes me more sad then someone saying "haha just you
wait" or " you think you're getting no sleep now, just wait". I'm not
perfect by any means but I honestly try to be positive in parenting, and
not give it a negative cogitation. Because really parenting brings me
so much joy and I can't wait for each stage with Levi. I can't wait to
hold our next baby and get to do it all over again.